What To Do When You Just Can't Say No

by Jocelyn Jacks Kahn

Can't say "no" to people intruding on your space? Eventually, your energy system will get the message. It will start directing your immune system to stop saying no to what doesn't belong there as well.

And a very common issue for people with autoimmune illness and people with cancer is difficulty setting limits.

Now, it's true that your energy system provides the template for your body, mind and emotions. But this process is reversible. If you model a specific behavior long enough, your energy system will start taking its cue from that behavior.

I know, I know – I need to be assertive, set limits, yada, yada...

Right - if you could do that, you wouldn't need advice to begin with!

But we're not going to take the indirect route. We're not going to try to change your immune system through changing your thoughts, feelings or behaviors. We're going to go straight to your energy system and re-set it directly through touch.

I don't want to imply that working with your feelings, thoughts and behavior is useless. By no means! It builds your "will" muscles, your "choice" muscles, your "I think I'll take charge of myself" muscles. This is all good. But using the resources of your energy system can make it sooo much easier.

Hit your re-set buttons! (Well, don't really hit them...)

You'll be using two "buttons":

1. The first button is – yes, your belly button. (Who knew?!) Simply hook either the thumb or middle finger of one hand into your belly button, pressing in slightly and pulling upward slightly (toward your head). This should not be uncomfortable.

2. The second button is right in between your eyebrows – a.k.a. your "3rd eye." Press the thumb or middle finger of your other hand into your "3rd eye" and pull slightly upward.

3. Hold your two "boundary re-set buttons" together until you suddenly find yourself giving a big sigh, hear your stomach gurgling, or have a sense that you're done. This should take about 3 to 5 minutes.

You're good to go!

Energy Hygiene

Do this once or twice every day, just as you brush your teeth every day. You'll have the inner resources you need to support firmer boundaries.

And if you know you're going into a situation that makes it difficult for you to stand your ground, do this "hook-up" first. This is also a great thing for healing practitioners to do before and after seeing a client.

Why does this work?

One of the most basic flows of energy around our bodies is the flow of the Central and Governing channels. When they're both switched on, all the energy channels in your body that flow front to back and top to bottom are switched on as well.

Moreover, you are permeated and surrounded by your aura. For energy newbies: this is sort of a semi-permeable shield of energy which helps your own energy field keep its integrity as you interact with your environment.

Without a strong aura, you are extremely vulnerable to whatever is going on in your environment, whether it's other people's attitudes or their illnesses.

By holding your belly button and 3rd eye together in this way, you stimulate your Central and Governing channels. And when they are flowing strongly, your aura is strong.

Your physical body will start to take its cue from your energy system – you'll start to feel a stronger sense of integrity, and it will feel easier to hold your own.

All this - just by "pulling your buttons"! ;-D

The source of this technique

Brilliant clairvoyant healer Donna Eden is the source of many of the most effective techniques in my arsenal. This is based on information from her book, Energy Medicine. It's extremely user friendly, whether you're a novice or an old hand at working with your energy system. Highly recommended!

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